"Does everybody know what dicked down means?" Erica Chidi Cohen surveys the room. Barefoot in a blue denim jumpsuit, her hair swirled into snug chin-length locs, she looks out at the group of women—rather, female-identifying people, to use her preferred term— who have come to attend the Thursday night adult sex-ed class at Loom, her Los Angeles–based education and wellness center.
Sensing a flicker of incomprehension, Chidi Cohen continues, her tone neutral yet authoritative, like a sommelier introducing a wine some customers might find challenging. "I feel like dicked down can mean a lot of things to a lot of people," she explains. "Like, if you are in a hetero partnership, it just means 'getting fucked.' Like, 'Tonight I'm going to get dicked down by x, y, z.' "
Or all three, because no judgment. "Singular, plural, absolutely no-holds-barred there. And if you're in a nonhetero partnership, you can be dicked down by a woman, you can get dicked down by a trans person. It's just a term for having sex," she says. "And it's probably going to be really good, and this person is potentially pretty dominant."
Folding her legs underneath her on a round raffia cushion, she points to the projection on the wall overhead, where the words dicked down appear in a tidy pastel circle alongside other circles that contain the words
pussy, cunt, dick, cock, cum or cumming, wet, and
fuck.
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